This interview is with Lydia Isborn about the death of her husband, Steve
Interviewer: Can you tell me a little bit about yourself?
Lydia: My name is Lydia
Isborn. I came from Milo, Maine. I’m 61 years old and live in Rosarito, Mexico.
Interviewer: What kind of work do you do?
Lydia: Just housewife.
Interviewer: Well that is a career unto itself. Please tell me a little bit about your husband, Steve, and his early life? Who was he, what was he like, age, his
goals and dreams.
Lydia: I met Steve in 2000 and we dated from May 2 to September 24 and got married on his birthday September 25. He was a church
go-er and had 2 children. He was a carpenter and liked his job.
Interviewer: How long were the two of you together?
Lydia: 16 years
Interviewer: Were either of you married before you met?
Lydia: I was. My
ex worked for him.
Interviewer: When did Steve die?
Lydia: May 22, 2017.
Interviewer: Can you give some details about the circumstances of how your husband died? Or what actually occurred?
Lydia: He was on the toll road and was past the Baja Malibu residential community and then a car pulled into his lane and hit his motorcycle. He died instantly. It was an awful accident.
Interviewer: Was the motorist who hit him caught? Or did they stay after the accident occurred?
Lydia: The driver took off. They got pictures of him and the car plus his driver license. The cops found him and let him go.
Interviewer: And he was never even charged with anything?
Interviewer: Did the police give you any explanation, as to why?
Lydia: The rumor is he paid them off.
Interviewer: I assume that is what you believe, or not?
Lydia: Oh, I believe it.
Interviewer: Where was he traveling to at the time, where was Steve going?
Lydia: Steve was heading towards Rosarito and the driver veered into Steve’s lane. There was a lot of traffic that day. But the accident happened because, instead of pulling in his lane, the driver went across into Steve’s lane.
Interviewer: You said you had pictures, how many people witnessed the accident?
Lydia: Quite a few people saw it happen. I have pictures that a bystander in a truck took.
Interviewer: How was your life was impacted by this traumatic event? If you could please describe the changes Steve’s death caused in your life.
Lydia: I felt like I was in a bad dream and that at any minute I would wake up and he would walk through the door. It still feels that way.
Interviewer: Do you dream about Steve today?
Lydia: Yes, but the dream is seeing him laying in the road with his jacket over his head.
Interviewer: How did your children take their father’s death?
Lydia: I didn’t have any children with Steve. His daughter took it hard that Steve never got to see his granddaughter. They lived in Little Rock, Arkansas. That is where I first met Steve.
Interviewer: How hard was Steve’s death on you and your family financially?
Lydia: The motorcycle clubs out here helped out greatly. They gave me money to pay for his funeral and gave me money to pay bills.
Interviewer: Was he a member of any specific motorcycle club?
Lydia: Yes, the Verdugos.
Interviewer: Sometimes death has an unexpected positive effect on our lives, despite being a terrible experience. Have you had any good things happen or realizations you have made in the wake of Steve’s death?
Lydia: I learned that I had such great friends in the motorcycle clubs here and how good my other friends have been to me.
Interviewer: That is good to hear. Friends are so important in times like you have gone through. Do you have family still living near or with you?
Lydia: Steve’s mom and stepfather still live here.
Interviewer: Are you close with his family?
Interviewer: Well, I am sad for you loss, although you have people around you that are helpful and supportive. How is life after surviving Steve as a spouse? Are you happy? Is your life still productive?
Lydia: It is different when you’re used to having someone who comes home to you every night and shares a bed with you, and does fun things on the weekends. I don’t have that anymore.
Interviewer: What is the one thing you miss most about Steve?
Lydia: His humor and his laugh.